Finding YOUR Funny
By Scott Sedita
Being aware of what makes up your personal “funny,” finding the comedy in yourself and your everyday life, is vital to becoming a successful comedy actor or writer. In order to be funny you must tap into your Funny Gene. And where does your Funny Gene come from? Your sense of humor has a number of influences, which include your family and your environment.
Let’s begin with your family. You inherited your sense of humor either from your mother’s side of the family, your father’s side, or both. If you can’t look back into your biological family history, look to your environment (your upbringing) as it also plays a major role. Whether your sense of humor was inherited or comes from your environment, or both, it all starts with family.
So look to the family that raised you. Is your mother funny? Is your mother’s mother funny? Is your father funny? Is your father’s father funny? Do you have an aunt with a wicked sense of humor, a cousin who plays practical jokes, a flamboyantly bitchy uncle, or a shameless sibling who “marches to the beat of their own drum?” Or do you have all of the above?
Who made you laugh? It’s important to know. Because funny starts with your family and it goes back generations. But what is the primary source of their humor? Where does it all ultimately start?
Well, comedy starts with pain. That’s right, comedy comes from conflict, desperation, oppression, repression and persecution. It comes from unadulterated, horrific, deep-seeded pain.
Stay with me. It is a fact that many of yesterday’s and today’s top comedians and comedy writers come from generations of disenfranchised and persecuted people, be it for their cultural differences, beliefs, customs, or philosophies. The history of the world is made up of groups of people who have faced oppression at some point in time (some more than others). One way to deal with that pain is with a strong sense of humor. The idea is either “you die, or you laugh about it.” They could have chosen to be miserable and depressed about their situation or their individual and ancestral experiences (some have and continue to do so). Others chose to find the humor in their hardship. This can be said for any group of people that has faced generational repression and persecution. Every race and culture has something painful in his or her ancestry that can be tapped for comedy.
Our sense of humor doesn’t just come from our ancestral pain. It also comes from the pain we experienced growing up and the pain we feel on a daily basis. Our individual sense of humor comes from our environment, our upbringing and our personal experiences. All of these play a major factor in how we perceive life, death, family, society, ourselves…all of those wonderful comedic topics.
I had two parents who were funny. I had a mother who was smart and sarcastic, and a father who was a well intentioned, overgrown child. Before they were divorced (the second time, that is), I remember them constantly arguing. It wasn’t funny to me as a child, but looking back now as an adult, it’s hysterical.
If I were to pitch my family to a network as a sitcom, I would say my childhood was kind of a cross between “Maude,” “The Middle” and “Everybody Loves Raymond.” It was at times tumultuous, but there was always humor, sometimes intentional, sometimes not. At no time was this more evident than during the holidays. Oh yes, those wonderful holidays!
In my family, Thanksgiving and football did not go hand in hand. One Thanksgiving, my Dad, once again going against my Mom’s very strong wishes, not only insisted upon watching the game but actually rolled the TV set into the dining room! Upon seeing the TV, my mother got so upset that she picked up the whole cooked turkey and hurled it across the dining room…breaking it into pieces. My father’s response?
“Well, at least now I don’t have to carve it.”
Funny, huh? But it came out of pain…my mom’s pain, my dad’s pain and my pain (the hungry participant, observer and future storyteller). My parents were funny characters and they helped me form my own sense of humor. Humor became my weapon, my way of dealing with my pain, and it derived from my parents and from my upbringing.
Think of your own life. What’s funny about it? What about your childhood was funny? What’s funny about your life now? Who in your family is funny? Who among your friends is funny? Combine all of that with a Funny Gene, some ancestral and personal pain, and you have your sense of humor.
Scott Sedita is an award-winning, highly in-demand Acting Coach and Motivational Speaker and also the author of the international bestselling books, “The Eight Characters of Comedy, A Guide to Sitcom Acting and Writing, 2nd Edition” and “Scott Sedita’s Guide To Making It In Hollywood. 3 Steps to Success. 3 Steps to Failure.” Scott is also the first acting coach to develop an App called Actor Audition App. He has taught and coached some of today’s hottest stars, including Matt LeBlanc, Courteney Cox, Christopher Meloni, Brandon Routh, Emma Roberts, Cameron Monaghan, Kellan Lutz, Chace Crawford, and Josh Duhamel, just to name a few. He founded Scott Sedita Acting Studios 17 years ago located at 526 N. Larchmont Blvd., the address where it still resides today.
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